I just discovered the website IfILovedMyself.com today. It's from Eliat Aviram, a clinical psychologist, hypnotherapist, energy-healing teacher, speaker, group and workshop facilitator, author and illustrator.
It's about asking yourself one question when stress or anxiety comes in: If I loved myself, what would I do? Or what would I say?
There are multiple variations of the questions below that you can listen to at regular intervals using the nudge clock.
This question is significant, it opens you up to the possibilities of loving yourself, and to listen to your intuition for guidance.
For those of us with CPTSD, I think it's a brilliant question to ask ourselves, as often we didn't have unconditional love.
You can watch this YouTube video for learn more.
Variations of the question:
- If I loved myself, what would I choose to say to myself now?
- If I loved myself, what would I choose to do now?
- If I didn't have fear, what would I do now? Is the fear real?
- If I knew I would be ok, what would I choose to do?
- If I knew nobody would scream at me, what would i do?
- As I know that I am a great person and that my parent shaming me was not because there was something wrong with me, but she simply had a bad outlook on life, would I give any meaning to the lies they said?
- If I knew everybody else would be ok, what would I do?
- If I would ask a kind, loving parent or friend, what would she say?
- If someone else is in the same or similar situation, what would I tell him/her? How kind would I be?
- As I logically know that things will turn out fine, what should I get started on this task?
- If I would be positive instead of negative, how would I feel?
- If 10 people would tell you that you are this exceptional person right now, how would you feel and do?
- Acknowledge your situation (for example, "I just ate too much").
- Ask yourself: If I loved myself, what would I do? (For example, if I would myself, I would take care of me, I would accept me for who I am, I would go for a walk)
- Listen for the "Yes" feeling. If you feel a "no" feeling, it's not it, wait for a "Yes" feeling.
If stress comes back, that a new situation, and you go back to #1
I think it can be a significant question to ask ourselves so we can start loving ourselves.
It can be great to decide what to do when we procastinate on something.